but I got over them soon. Here is what I did:

1. Realize that the fight is not for a million bucks or for a nobel prize, or for a democratic China, and thus really does not worth anything.

2. Don't take yourself seriously if you feel others insulted you. People insulted me here in xys reader forum and I just make joke of it, since I don't really care what people think of me and I think my own exisitence is just a random meaningless event.

3. Don't take other people seriously either since they are also random events. One should not be really angry with a product of all the random events in history:)

4.Thus say sorry whether its your fault or not. If the other party is still mad at you that is really his problem. You should feel peace since you are the noble party.

Hope these help. I think one should always try kid around. But when you are fighting for a cause you really believe in like Fang Zhouzi, then you would not feel sorry and angry after the fight.