送交者: xj 于 2005-8-10, 14:42:34:
回答: 婚外情是象水痘，出过就好；还是象巧克力，尝到甜头，越吃越香？ 由 Enlighten 于 2005-8-10, 14:00:33:
incompetence, and disappointment about themselves. Most people will ask themselves: "why should I do this?"
Some people may explore all kind of weakness of their spouses to justify their erroneous behavior, but some may introspect themselves to find out the inner reasons.
If you look back to the time when you first met with your spouse, you might believe that she/he is the one you are searching for years (let me exclude those profit generating marriages). You deliberately ignored her/his weakness hoping everything will change and the life will be just fine.
In the era of internet, like-mind people may gather in the same internet forum, which yields a greater chance to meet someone who shares your view, comforts your feelings, and satisfies your curiosity, as you may have experienced here. It may be in reality she/he may indeed a better mate than your current one. But often it is not the case.
On the internet, you only find the shining spots in other people because all of you are hiding behind screen. The intentional or unintentional lies mask your real characteristics.
However, people still fall out of marriage and fall in the mire of extramarriage affairs. I don't know why, but I am afraid of giving a try.
Because of the multidimensionality of love, I guess it is better to have different kind of lovers: some are for sex, some are for family, and some are for intellectual exchange.
I am jealous of old polygamy days.