不过从法律方面考虑，被领养的孩子必须和生父母脱离关系。不然的话会引起很多纠纷，使潜在的养父母们驻足不前，更多需要领养的孩子会找不到爱心家庭。
当然，孩子十八岁以后要去找生父母那谁也拦不住。
贺梅只是暂时寄养在贝壳家，从来没被正式领养过。
What I mean is, life has been unfair to 贺梅 in the eight years since her birth, and it will continue to be unfair .
I would care much less how her birth parents and foster parents feel. Because they are adults and they should take responsibility for what they did.